Confessions of a Hookie Player!
Direct from the Beach……
Today is my Birthday . Celebration is huge for us as a family. Gives us all something to look forward to and I 've given myself permission to take a "Me" day today, without guilt, without making myself bad and wrong with any and or head chatter. It's been a while and I deserve it.
It's good , it's healthy and nurturing! Not to mention V E R Y over do.
I got the importance of taking "ME" time, scheduling it and sticking to it when I was married. My Former used to think I was being selfish and taking away from home/ family/ work time. The reality was, what he never seemed to get was , that if I fell apart, all the plates would come crashing down.
I took every Wednsday morning while the children where in school, drove to the beach with my music blaring… notice the "my" — singing my heart out…. powerwalk the beach, commune with God, nature, & look for treasures which I took as signs!! Than treat myself to lunch and return a new women. Centered refreshed and ready to go newly.
During my divorce, if Iwas getting grouchy, irritable or frustrated, my girls would put their hand on my shoulder and say."mom, you need a beach day" LOL. Their way of calling me "Bitchy"
My move to South Florida had created new challenges and I'd forgotten about scheduling the "Me" time. As a Life Coach, I remind others of this all the time. I had checked in at the beginning of the year with my self assesment, and had neglected to check that aspect for myself as I was so excited about the New Year possibilities I had in store for my Clients.
I live much closer to the beach now. Think I've checked it out? No , I was in my head and in my story that I hadn't found a peice of nature here…. Had I looked for it? no. So much for that belief system…. Guessing I am as human as you are and remember I do this for a living! Clearing belief systems is a passion of mine. For me, with practice, I've gotten to clear my own quickly or source it out to my Coach, every good Coach needs Coach to stay on track!
So today I found myself East bound, top down, 68 degrees and cloudy. I didn't care… I was heading to the beach to find my peace. A spot for myself to center , ground and call my own. Phone shut off and after managing the parking ticket meter which I wouldn't allow to discourage me…. (who knew they took credit cards! Get out!! Yeah! as I didn't have $3.00 for my 2 hour stay.
I found my spot today at the beach, no hi-risers behind me to look at , no homes, just beautifully intertwined sea grapes, some of south florida's best! On my way down the wooden path the cutest little cat approached me with a huge meow of welcome! After a few warm fuzzy rubs around the head & neck, down the path I went, blanket & journel in hand. My newest friend ambled happily along side to the beach, onto my towel making herself right at home. As I looked upward, and took my first few ocean breaths of fresh salty air, it was almost maracious how the clouds parted and the sun shown brightly. 68 warm sunny Florida degress was very do -able today! The oceans crystal blue/ green , ahh, a small peice of heaven before me. The Only thing missing was my bathing suit to work on that all over tan thing… no matter, not one to lay out anyway…
As I breathed in all the splendor of the moment, my new friend "Jezabelle strode off with a meow! I thanked her for making my birthday special. Ahh, me time…. I layed back to just use my senses to create the presence, smell the air, hear the waves.. feel the cool breeze, aware of my surroundings and beginning to breathe in sync to the waves… I found that special peice of self.
I was okay, everything was grand and back comes Jezabelle, all in my face and wanting much attention! After a few rounds of petting and purring, she made herself at home stretched out very comfortably I might add along my ride side (shady side of the towel) purring softly. I had never experienced a cat on the beach, was a first for me. As I began my meditaion there in sync with the waves I got very present to my Stress management techniques, the same I teach others to do… Breathing in love, compassion and appreciation..exhaling gratitude, I was breathing how much I appreciated the love I was getting on my birthday from this little critter. I was so grateful for this wonderul gift this day. Often we feel alone and we truly arent! I stayed in that space for about 30 minutes. Jezabelle remained there with me. Not that I was looking for another animal to bring home, she would've been the one I would've if. Actually, I told her if she followed me INTO the car, she'd find a home with us.
After some time , she got up to next in the reeds, neither of us personalized a thing or made it mean anything. Great space to be in! I got up to put my feet in the water….. cool crisp clear water… it was magical! I walked for sometime looking for treasures ! The picin's were sparce here. Shell trearures were to to be found on the West Coast of FL, more than the East Coast, no matter I found a cool peice of drift wood, a piece of coral which reminded me of my brain to think ( I'm into brain science, so it fed that part of life) a cool looking shell and in the hopes of making my birthday complete…. I wishted to see a dolphin. After some time I realized, if I wish to be seeing a dolphin, I would be needing to look towards the water rather the ground for treasure! The real treasure would be where I was looking.
I looked up and there were the geese flying in formation ( I know I've posted that story before… cool one! ) Today was a wonderful day! How greatful and fortuate I am.
As I gathered my things to go, there on the path was Jezabelle with her straight line down her forehead. She looked at me and meowed. Once more I reminded her of my promise, when as if perfect timing, out from under the board walk comes her mom. I couldnt take her from her family, so I grabbed my phone came back to take this precious picture as a reminder of unconditional love. I had plenty!
Butterflies lite the path before me… Doesn't get much better! Made it to the car only 3 minutes late! Not bad without a time source just instinct. I smiled , top down grin on my face! The clouds begin gathering just as I depart and get thicker the whole ride home.. Ahhh… a moment for me. I relished it.
Lunch celebration with my daughter and adopted son. Ice Cream stop later. Family and Friends called….
Upon returning home and happy to be on my Team call with the most amazing Global Leaders, I was content to know I was a part of this commitment to my self and the world.
It was clarified and verified by my opening My Facebook and the abundance of well wishes, acknowledgments and such was a warm reminder why I Love what I do. Why I DO what I do because of people like you!
Thank you one and all for being a part of my beautiful day! It was abundant , peaceful and joyous!!
I am content and Fulfilled & I scheduled my day for next week! Yeah!
Namaste!
Karen
Imagination is a Powerful tool. Vision Board/ Journaling support
"A "A Man's life is dyed by the color of his imagination" ~ Marcus AureliusA Man's life is dyed by the color of his imagination" ~ Marcus Aurelius life is dyed
by the color of his imagination" ~ Marcus Aurelius
It's already been proven that your brain will retain 40 % of what it Sees.
A Vision Board or Visual Journal are powerful tools for shifting and renovating our belief systems. Especially the ones which hold us back… that self talk. The talk which tells us the way we view and feel about ourselves. Yes guys, I said the "feel" word. It's the way we see and experience the world.
Our feelings where put in place for a reason. The reason is a beromiter of whats occuring in your world in that moment. Every thing you think and feel effects not only your moods, effects some part of your body as well. Wish good health?? Perhaps see yourself as Healthy, feel yourself healthy. You are what you thinkith!!! Imagination goes a long way!
The Vision Board or Journal appeals directly to the part of the brain (right side) which responds to feelings and images. This is where we create ourselves. Your brain cannot distinquish between the experiences which are imagined or those that are real.
Therefore, it is unable to reject the 'bad/wrong" or the illusional truths and feelings we put in the space. By it's nature, it than reproduces the outer reality as the truth within our minds.
When used to the fullest, your Boards/ Journals will bring focus to those elements you choose to create as the "movie" in your creative mind.
The Visual consists of pictures, symbols, words that your highter self will select more clearly that defines what truly is and what you truly wish to achieve in all areas of your life to create balance.
By focusing your mind on each of these qualities you wish to express, or that what you wish to have, which events you wish to experience , your mind will cause them to become a reality.
In short, using these tools will support you in overcoming those self imposed defects & shortcomings by creating strengths which reflect your intentions and aspirations.
Board vs Journals:
Both are very effective tools. The Board is a space to create all which you desire or wish to shift on one surface. A Journal is used for each area of your life on individual pages. Neither can be simple or more defined… you get to choose…
Keep the Vision within your sights!
For those of you in the South Florida area : Keep posted for ongoing Vision Board Workshops on my website calendar:
For those of you in the South Florida area: Keep posted for ongoing Vision Board Workshops on my website calendar.
Make this Year a Powerful Year!! Imagination …. run with it!
ake this Year a Powerful Year !! Imagination…. run with it!
Setting Intentions for a Powerful New Year!
In this moment I can declare the kind of day I will experience, the kind of year that will follow…. Therefore, I decide this will be my Greatest Year!
New Years Intentions are at hand…
Who needs support to put the structures needed in place to follow thru and have this be your Greatest Year?
Personally I enjoy using the term "intentions" as apposed to "goals" . That I beleive works for some and often lands for others as more "work to do". Intentions sounds less threatening and from my experience with using it within my practice seems to be followed thru with more ease.
So, When setting your Intentions for the New Year, make your "declarations" clear and consise. You want the Universe to support your efforts and align its paths to your door on delivary. Don't forget to include your Personal Health, Prosperity, improved Relationships, and Enhanced Self -Esteem , Worthiness & self image, Spirituality if that moves you in Ways of being of Service. Career Intentions & enhanced communication for starters….
I love the idea of bulleted journeling, it creates awareness of your achievements, progress and stops. With awareness , you get to choose!
I am a true advocate of Vision Boards… your brain will retain 40% more information whether you are aware of it doing so or not. So the more you see your vision, theoretically, your actions will align to have them become a reality.
Being in action is the name of the Game to Live the Life you Love!
The above is exactly what your Life Coach works closely with, putting structures in place , holding you to account, being your mentor, your friend, no judgment nor opinions… It's all about your Success. Your Success becomes mine!
Thank you for your Loyal Patronage. I look forward to Serving you in the New Year as well.
Many Blessings to you and yours!
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info@tranquilSOULutions.com I can declare the kind of day I will experience, the kind of year that will follow…. Therefore, I decide this will be my Greatest Year!
's all about your Success. Your For more information: Inquire Today!
Begin Transforming Financial Worries
Begin Transforming Financial Worries and Stress Today If you’re feeling worried and anxious about money, you’re not alone. For millions of people, financial stress is eating away at their basic sense of security and well-being. And it’s not just bank accounts that are being drained, but also physical and emotional resources, which in turn impact health, relationships, productivity and happiness.
Even when we can’t control our external situation, creating a balanced connection between the heart and brain helps reduce the internal taxes of scarcity and insecurity and opens new pathways in the problem-solving process.
Instead of trying harder to think our way through these problems, here’s an alternative approach to consider:
Nine practical and affordable tips for easing financial stress.
- Expressing gratitude
- Shifting your attitude and focus
- Feeling compassion and caring
- Letting your heart govern your thoughts, emotions and actions
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Shift in perception, Breathing helps think clearer as to what is wanted and needed…
The Direction Life Takes begins with Perception..You can shift that course!
Your feed back is is truly honored and looked forwardFor those of you who took last weeks challenge on…. We played a game of Self Expression: 
For those of you who took last weeks challenge on … We played a game of Self Expression…
1. Accomplishments…
By acknowledging yourself and your accomplishments, over a period of time when you look back you will notice a pattern.
The pattern reveals that no matter how large or how small your accomplishments, whether you won a metal or not, you have similarities to others.
More importantly, the more you follow thru with this practice of continuing jotting down any accomplishment, big or small, you get to Bragg big time here, it will support boosting your self Esteem after time.
2. Your Gratitude lists…
When you jotted down every thing you could think of and continue to think of … if you notice, often you see what you do have rather than don't which shifts much energy! You will start looking at the grass being just as green in your own back yard! Often Greener!
3. Smile Makers— Warm & Fuzzies
When you jotted down this week what created smiles for you , it after time will shift your breathing, your cortisol levels and decreases stress as well as shifting energies in an instant. That is all it takes, when you come back to review this section as needed. So keep adding to the list!!
4. 150 things do do before you depart or your Bucket lists
When jotting down these fun things you wish to do, you stand in a space of creating usually fun and play. A reminder that life is too short and take it on full out, here and not!
Say what you need to say or do for others Now!
For those of you who continued on with the Bonus's..
5. Things that feed your SOUL..
By taking this one on over time you will come to see what makes you tick, reveals core values and usually will have you reviewing your smile makers as well as Gratitude on a different level! Great stuffs…Keep on keeping on.
6. Positive Affirmations….
These written & reviewed over time will keep you grounded on not only the glass being 1/2 full, it will also keep you grounded in that which you recognize solely for you in which you choose to shift.
Keep up the great work, and keep your journals going!
I am trusting those of you who played along had fun while not making this assignment stressful, nor significant .
What was your take on this exercise? Was it supportive,
Your feed back is is truly honored and looked forward towards.
In gratitude,
Karen
Self Expression A Game: Creating the Awareness to Create Powerful Choices!
You get to choose…
The powerful game of Self Expression begins with creating awareness. This means you will be taking a moment each day to do some soul searching.
If you choose to play, go out and purchase the prettiest journal you can find…and the prettiest color pen you will use. Because you are worth it!
Having an investment incured here, you will be more likely to write daily, not to mention, because you are worth it! Notice, I said it twice! Get it?
Once you purchased your increadibly beautiful journel , you will be dividing your journel into 4 sections : ( sticky notes work well to divide, or let your creative juices flow…)
Minimum 4 sections:
1) All your accomplishments starting from…. your choice.( birth, ealiest childhood memory, now…….. Brag, really BRAG big, no one sees this book other than you. If you choose to share perfect… good conversation starter!
2) Your Gratitude lists. All the many simple things you are grateful for…. feel free to go on and on… there are many more journels out there to fill!
3) Smile makers List 1. thru a kazillion! …. that which brings the biggest smiles to your face! I like to call this section "Warm , Fuzzies"
4) 150 things I would like to accomplish before I die … Your bucket lists! Here will be slightly set up differently….. you will be leaving space between lines to fill in the date you accomplished this item and a brief note on how it made you feel! Ouch, the feeling word!! ( no one sees, but you!) Ahh, the clincher… for everything you complete here, you must add to the bottom of the list something new. So , there will always be 150 ongoing on your list!!
RULES of the game! Remember every GAME has rules… your game, your rules, though, I promise if you are intuned to what you are writing here, something special shows up!
1. Each day commit to writing min. of 3 entries on each list, more if your heart desires.
2. *Label each bulleted point 1 per line… might want to date a few for reference
3. Lists may overlap from one section and be appropriate for another. 4) The key: Schedule in your calendar , time to manage your 12 + entries each day! We will be playing for one month or more!! Schedule it's existance!
If you are even more inspired… I added further sections to my own journeling game, your choice, your game…) :
5) Things which feed my soul
6) Positive Affirmations or inspirations that I wish to refer back to. And I do often.
After Taking it on for minimum 1 month, carry it with you, keep by the toilet, schedule a time in your calendar to put your 12 items in daily!
DO NOT reread for at least One Week! …. after review & see the magic unfold? The longer you wait, the more will unfold!!
Who will play with me? By when will you take it on?
After one month, share the magic with us all….
I will be playing starting Monday, December 12, 2011 one step/ day with each of my Facebook Friends.( search Karen Rudolf ) come follow us there for more fun and play!
Remember , you are not alone, there are others who have the same thoughts, inspirations and dreams…. Watch the magic unfold on Friday!
Namaste & love
Karen
The 5 Love Languages! Wonderful Tool, wonderful Book to create Relatedness in any situation!
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- When you see your own Greatness , you are than able to see anothers!
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- Would be a Sad to Let life Pass you by..
Which of theres Reflects who you are and what you need??
The 5 Love Languages®
What if you could say or do just the right thing guaranteed to make that special someone feel loved? The secret is learning the right love language! Millions of couples have learned the simple way to express their feelings and bring joy back into marriage: The 5 Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman’s New York Times bestseller!
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Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
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Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
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Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
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Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
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Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
Which are you? When you take all five of the Love Languages , Prioritize each, you will find you have each of these in plays. The top two are pretty much which drive you. If you were to find a partner with the same priortiy list, kudos to you, you'll most lokely have a wonderful reationship!! Most likely you will have less overlapping. Just because you like time or gifts, perhaps your partner may be of service and shower you with "I love You's"… No worries, accept where they are at , know what language drives them and expand your languages into giving them what they need … Communicate what your needs are and create agreements. These are the keys to an Awesome, powerful relationship!
Imagine if you know your boss requires affirmations, not that you want to be singing his tunes consistantly as it will not come accross as genuine… how about giving him an acknowledgement and credit he deserves? How would that come back and support you and your co workers. Sounds to me like it would make a happier Leader!
Imagine how parenting would shift if we knew what our childrens desires were and it would be easy to give them that which they require to learn life lessons of giving to others since thier needs were met!
Imagine, imagine, imagine! Building Relationships are Key! Without Relatedness NOTHING Works! A great starting place is to know yourself first,than know another.. build from there….
I highly recommend the Book "the Five Love Lanugages" by Gary Chapman. Personally I give the book as Anniversary / Wedding Presents, to my Clients and speak into it often! This one is Key, would love to hear your feedback here….
Best to you all for expanding Relationships!
Namaste, Karen
Changing the Story: Becoming Responsible
In my Coaching Practice, I've gotten so present to those who feel the need to defend or justify their point of view with long drawn out stories. Usually pointing the fingers at everyone else.
Human Nature takes us down that road, nostly when we don't want to be responsible for something we were going to do or say or it hadn't worked out as planned…….
Remembering the brain is there amongst other reasons, to protect and keep us safe! When the Ego gets in the way , it creates the Flight or Fight Syndrome, our senses become proctective/ defensive.
As much as I find the stories often entertaining, I often have to stop them from going any futher, usually because of time constraints. The more one goes on and on , the more the listener gets lost and the point of the story becomes blurry. Often the StoryTeller comes across as the Victim or what I fondly refer to as "the Pity Party", believe me , I've had my fair share of that one!
There is nothng wrong here, we all tend to go on sometimes. It might serve your listener to ask them they have time to listen to you go on. Asking to just be a listener, not to give judgement or opinion, you don't need to be fixed!! In all fairness to the story teller, often they just need to be heard and listened to, and the answers they seek are usually right there upon their lips by the time they finish!
By becoming aware and training ourselves to listen…hear…. what comes out of our mouths will allow the participants to be more engaged and supportive of what you truly are attempty to convay.
Stop. Breathe… Think of what you wish your intention to convey. Ask for what you want/ need… than speak into the subject.
Clear , Concise Communication! How Very Attractive Indeed!!
Keys to Managing your Intentions
1- Have fun
Choose an activity that itself is satisfying, not for the benefits it promises. You’ll be more likely to stick with it after the newness has worn off. Emphasize the “want” rather than “should” in your choices of activity. Satisfaction comes from achieving a level of competence, or from simply performing the activity.
2 – Become accountable to someone you trust
It’s ok to grit your teeth and be determined to do it on your own, but the support network is important, whether it's at home, in the exercise class or in the work environment. To keep your progress constant, be accountable to a friend, a family member or a Life Coach, much like your exercise Coach. They will encourage you to continue when you don’t feel like it.
3 – Write it down
Knowing exactly how much you've accomplished whether it be exercise , what you are eating, or looking to accomplish, it often makes it harder to slack off. Without a record, it is easy to overestimate your activity level and to let other things interfere and take over. Make it important! Make it Count!
4 – Make it important
People who make priorities rather than an “add-on” are likely to integrate more of it into their lives. Having a regular workout time, planning time, eatting time, etc , also helps and is a huge factor for adhering to your plan. A flexible schedule often backfires – once a person has missed one priority, it’s easier to miss others. Schedule all your planning a week ahead and don’t cancel on yourself unless you absolutely have to.
This article or post is not intended to provide individual advice, which should be obtained directly from your health care professional.
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Create Your world with Adjectives
Today I created the possibility of Relatedness, Presence and Gratitude!